Bulldozing Lesbians at the hospital: Everyone should have a choice who will be by their side

I have talked  and written about my story of becoming ill and bulldozed, and then working at taking back my health.  I have talked and written about becoming gravely ill.   I have also talked and written about bulldozer Health Inc. remedies for health.  I  feel though, like there is an elephant in the room, that I haven’t discussed. It’s pink, and it’s waving a gay pride flag.

You see I have always had the attitude that I wanted to be treated equally to everyone else.  In fact, I demand it in my life  I felt that by not making an issue of my sexuality, I am saying I am just like everyone else.   After all, heterosexuals don’t declare themselves at work or on their way, so why should I?  I speak about my life in a matter of fact manner.   I make no apologies, and I never lie about it.  But the fact is, that because I don’t present as a “typical” lesbian, whatever that is, people don’t realize that is what I am unless I tell them. I have been re-thinking this idea though. Maybe it’s time to be more forthright.

That said,  within the medical establishment,  both my wife and I , have experienced discriminatory remarks and treatment.   She was told by certain nurses that she couldn’t stay with me in the hospital, and by others that she could.  Same  hospital.   They would choose to enforce policies apparently based on their  personal feelings about our relationship at the time.  So it wasn’t really a matter of policy. We even had a whole medical team breathe a sigh of relief when they found out she was a woman and not a teenage boy.  Literally, breathe a sigh of relief right in front of m e. These situations are uncomfortable and create stress in a person who is ill.  If you are like me, you want your significant other with you when the going gets rough and you are uncertain about your health status.   Especially when you are being told very scary things like “You are going to die either from the medicine we have to give you or the disease that you have:”. You want to hold on to every minute with that person.  Additionally,  your significant other is frightened  too, and wants first hand information from the doctor, and to be by your side to comfort you.  Neither the patient nor the significant other should have to worry that they won’t have the choice to make.

We must all demand equal treatment and sensitivity by all health professionals in this matter.  In fact, I believe family and loved ones may mean very different things to different people.   Right now, for instance, my wife and I are separated.  We are both trying to heal from the ordeal of my illness in our own ways. But  I still want her to be able to obtain medical information about me, and I still want her by my side if I am in a life or death situation.  This should be my choice.   And if I want a friend or other loved one with me, this should also be my choice.  All patients  should have with them those who love and care about them,  if they want them there.  It reduces stress on the patient.   Feeling  the loving presence of those you care about if that is what you want, can only improve health and wellness. Why should the healthcare establishment get to decide who has a relationship that qualifies them to stay by your side when you are ill and hospitalized?

So, as I thought about writing this, I realized that if we are all to be empowered in our health choices, it includes this. When ill, and trying to heal, we must be able to choose everything that will encourage a healing and healthy environment without stress and worry.

Peace,

Wendy Love  Edge

Take back your health America!

http://www.bulldozerhealth.com

You can reach Oxygen Edge on Twitter : @oxygenedge

Her blog is:

http://oxygenedge.blogspot.com/2014/08/moving-in-to-live-with-my-southern.html?zx=64e1cbe57df1068a

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2 Comments

  1. Acts of discrimination, inequality, and institutionalized oppression continue rampantly in America. Please follow this blog. Help spread the truth about these events and how they effect our lives, instead of the ignorance that has lead to these tragedies. One day it could be you, a friend, or family member. #endhate

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  2. Unfortunately hospitals are set up for the convenience of doctors and have very little to do with wellness and patient comfort. For Lesbians this lack of wellness and stress is compounded by the discrimination factor. As a living being I instinctively know that home is the best place to heal; AT HOME WITH FRIENDS AND LOVED ONES. Our lives, now, don’t allow for the doctor to come to the home (anyone remember doctors that made house calls) so why should Lesbians or anyone be denied the only other possible health and wellness behavior: HAVING FAMILY AND FRIENDS WITH YOU WHEN YOU ARE ILL, if that is what you want and need when you are in the hospital or under medical care outside of your HOME.

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